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Wa `alaykum As-Salamu wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuh.
In the Name of Allah, Most Gracious, Most Merciful.
All praise and thanks are due to Allah, and peace and blessings be upon His Messenger.
First of all, we’d like to say that we are impressed by your question, which emanates from a thoughtful heart. May Allah Almighty help us all adhere to the principles of this true religion, Islam, and enable us to be among the dwellers of Paradise in the Hereafter! Also, we implore Him to help you find a God-fearing husband who will assist you in leading a righteous marital life.
In his response to your question, Sheikh Ahmad Kutty, a senior lecturer and Islamic scholar at the Islamic Institute of Toronto, Ontario, Canada, states:
“You are to be commended for feeling sorry for your mistakes. Allah is Forgiving and Merciful; if you show true remorse and are determined to adhere to the path of truth and right conduct, He will surely turn towards you in mercy.
Before giving you some du`a’s let me also point out that Islam wants us to use religion and character as the paramount criteria in choosing marriage partners. The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) is reported to have said, “If a person of pleasing religion and character approaches you for marriage, marry him; otherwise you are paving the way for rampant corruption.” Marriages succeed because of spiritual affinity and attitude of the people involved rather than for reasons of abundance of wealth, high family status, or due to physical looks or charms.
Now that you are aware of your mistakes and you wish to turn to Allah for help, the best way to do it is through Prayers and supplications. Allah’s treasures are limitless and He is ready to open them to those who seek them. Let me explain how you can approach Allah for His mercy.
It has been reported on the authority of `Abdullah ibn Abi Awfa that the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him) said: If anyone wishes to solicit something from Allah or from human beings, let him perform ablution and offer two rak`ahs of Prayer, and then praise Allah and send salutations on His Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) and then supplicate as follows:
Laa ilaaha illaa Allaah al-haleem al-kareem subhaana Allah rabbi al-`arshi al-azheem, al-hamdu lillaahi rabbi al-`aalameen, as’aluka moojibaati rahmatika wa `azaa’ima maghfiratika wa al-ghaneemata min kulli birrin wa as-salaamata min kulli ithmin laa tada` lee dhanban illa ghafartahu wa laa hamman illaa farrajtahu wa laa haajatan hiya laka ridhan illaa qadaytahaa yaa arhama ar-rahimeen.
(There is no god but Allah, the Clement, the Bountiful; glory be to Allah, Lord of the Mighty Throne; praise be to Allah, Lord of the worlds; I ask of You for the things that merit Your mercy and the things that bring me Your forgiveness; I beseech You for all that is virtuous, and freedom from all sins; do not leave for me any sin unless You forgive it, no worry unless You remove it, and no legitimate need of mine that is pleasing to You unless You fulfill it, O the Most Merciful of those who show mercy!)
Also you can meditate frequently on the following:
Yaa hayyu yaa qayyoomu bi rahmatika astagheethu.
(O the Ever-Living, the Self-Subsisting Source of all beings, I beseech Your Mercy, so have mercy on me.)
Rabbi innee bimaa anzalta ilayya min khayrin faqeer.
(O Lord, I remain ever in need of any good that You may send my way.)
While offering these supplications, also never fail to keep your mind and eyes open to look for suitable candidates. You should make use of all available responsible avenues and resources in the community. I pray to Allah to grant you success in your endeavors. Ameen.”
Excerpted, with slight modifications, from: www.muslims.ca
You can also read:
Istikharah Prayer: Rules & Signs of Response
Salatul Istikharah: Any Sign of Response?
Qualities to Look for in a Spouse
The Philosophy of Marriage in Islam
The Ideal Way to Find a Partner in the West
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