Wa `alaykum As-Salamu wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuh.
In the Name of Allah, Most Gracious, Most Merciful.
All praise and thanks are due to Allah, and peace and blessings be upon His Messenger.
Dear sister in Islam, we would like to thank you for your very interesting question and the great confidence you place in us. We invoke Allah to grant you a righteous husband to care for you and accompany you on the path of righteousness and piety.
First of all, we’d like to state that in Islam the marriage of a man and a woman is not just a financial and physical arrangement of living together but a sacred contract, a gift of Allah, to lead a happy, enjoyable life and have children. For the attainment of these supreme goals, Islam has set certain criteria in choosing the lifelong partner, namely piety and good character. Islam directs its adherents to seek their life partners on the basis of the Islamic criteria in order to assure the success of the marriage.
Prior to these arrangements, every Muslim, male and female alike, should try to practice Islam, follow its guidance, and translate its teachings in his/her life. Doing so, a Muslim should seek Allah’s help and invoke Him earnestly for a righteous spouse to enable him/her to lead an Islamic life.
In his response to the question in point, Sheikh Muhammad Iqbal Nadvi, Imam of Calgary Mosque, Alberta, Canada, and Former Professor at King Saud University, Riyad, Saudi Arabia, gave the following answer:
“The answer is not so simple because marriage is just like gambling; nobody can be sure what will happen next with a partner. However, Islam has established a system to make it sure, and if we follow the teachings of Islam, Allah will bless us by His help.
My advice for you is:
1. Follow the teachings of Islam and apply them to your life.
2. Make constant du`a' to Allah Almighty and be sincere in your du`a' that Allah give you the husband that draws you closer to Him and helps you practice Islam better.
3. Keep in mind the importance of choosing a husband who cares about the practice of Islam and focuses on moral obligations more than he focuses on material achievement.
4. Always seek council of good people in matters of marriage proposals.
May Allah give you the righteous husband and make your life successful!”
You can also read:
Qualities to Look for in a Spouse
