You described yourself as a problem child, my son, which I do not see. What was missing from your life as a child, and was most important to you it would seem, is a father figure. You went through the normal developmental stages, including the need to emulate a role model. That role model would have been your father, but as he was not alive to be your role model, you transferred that to another male. At the same time, you were emotionally vulnerable, but what is difficult to ascertain from what you have shared is how much of that vulnerability was transferred to you by your mother. The way in which you describe how you and your mother used to cuddle up in bed, indicates this, although it is not abnormal for a mother to comfort her child in this manner. What seems to have complicated the issue for you is how others around you reacted to your need to emulate. If this was seen as a natural process, you would have passed through that experience in a healthy manner, but because it was negatively received, the reactions of others affected you in the same manner, negatively. It might have been that there were certain characteristics about the person you selected as a role model which made others react in the way that you did, but you do not indicate this to be so. It was by the Grace of Allah that you turned to Him, and found a means in Him to overcome what you was going through, subhann-Allah.

The fact that you are still attracted to male may be more to do with a need to fulfill the father figure in your life, which is often the case with men who have same-sex attraction. However, because you have not had the kind of supportive environment which allows you to process the your experiences and to differentiate between the need for love from a fatherly figure, the need for attention as a child which it would seem as remained unmet, the two elements have become confused and combined into projecting those needs towards a male.

The fact that you have not been inclined to women can mean more than one thing:

That until the father figure is present in your life, you are unable to fufill  certain male needs

That you do not view women as objects of desire, and are therefore you are not attracted to women in this way. This despite the common view is actually healthy. What is unhealthy is to see women as objects, which is what your psychiatrist with all his best intentions wanted to instill in you.

The fact that you do not think sex first puts you among the class of men who have more respect for themselves, and women. These kind of men used to be called gentlemen, and al hamdu Lillah they still exist. In this sense, your hypnotist was extremely helpful in helping to reveal the true nature of your sexuality. However, it is unfortunate that today there is a limited view of what constitutes masculinity, and both your psychiatrist, and your hypnotist were looking for quick answers, the benefit of which you realized that you are not in fact homosexual!

Shaytan is a busy fellow, and sought to put you off track again in the form of male advances towards you. There are many homosexuals who find it a challenge to engage heterosexuals as a conquest! This only served to override the fact that you had acknowledged one of the reasons for wanting to get married as a need for a father figure i.e. a father-in-law.

Your dream my son may have been a call from your fears, rather than a sign from Allah (SWT). It is your fear that as set up a sequence of events from male attraction to the dream. If you have learnt anything about yourself from the experiences during and after your time with the psychiatrist, and the hypnotist, it is that you are not homosexual, and that you are above female objectification, and that you are able to relate women as women. Take courage my son, and answer your mother, and hold hands with faith. If this rich girl your mother has found is not to your liking, do not assume that you are homosexual, but realize instead that you want something more than a rich girl who is just rich, you want and need a wife who is a woman, and has the kind of family that can see you as their son insha-Allah…

For further guidance, please try the following link(s):
Pornography and Same-Sex Attraction
Am I Turning Gay?
Terrified That He Might Be Gay!
Dangerous Thoughts or Same Gender Identity?
I Want to Be A Normal Husband