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What you are experiencing is a common problem for men who spend long periods of time away from their wives, and are without intimate relations for some time. During these periods of isolation men usually find ways to get their needs met. However, most of these methods, including masturbation, provide only physical release to the body, and do not provide healthy emotional comfort or connection. Because of this, the act of sex, over time, can become habitual, and lacking in emotion or connection.
For many years the act of sex (masturbation) was simply something that provided a needed physical release to keep your mind balanced and body healthy. Slowly, you need to turn back on the emotional and connective aspect of sex in your body and mind. It may not happen naturally. One might assume it would, however, the body can be trained in many ways. Because your body is used to following one path for many years it naturally wants to continue following this same path. You will need to re-teach your body how to have sex.
It may take some time, depending on your will power, self control, cooperative nature of your wife, comfort level with your wife (in talking about such things) and other factors. Start slowly and see where it leads.
Start by slowly adding in some more emotional and connective parts to sex. Before you have sex with your wife, speak to her in a gentle way or about some pleasant things, compliment her or engage in amusing conversation. Wait to have sex until you feel you have made at least some small emotional connection with her. Once you feel you have made an emotional connection then try to make a deeper physical connection. Touch her in various places on her body in a gentle way, kiss her for some time. Spend time connecting with her physically. Do this as long as you can. You will be able to prolong this with practice. As your body and mind become more accustomed to an integrated experience with your wife (mind, body and emotion) you will find that your problem is decreasing and will soon be gone. If, after trying this for one month you see no improvement at all, please let me know, and I can help you some more.
As far as a doctor in India that could help you - any doctor should be qualified to help you in this matter. It depends on if you can find a doctor you are comfortable speaking with, and one that you feel you can trust. You may need to visit 4 or 5 doctors before you find one that "feels right" or one that can help you. This is normal. Start making appointments. Don't be surprised or frustrated if you need to see more than one doctor. It may take a few tries to find the right one. If you don't feel that one doctor has been able to help you could also ask THAT doctor for a recommendation. Often, doctors know their colleagues work well, and are happy to recommend an expert to you.
Blessings & Health…
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Overcoming Masturbation
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