Thank you for writing to us. Here are some thoughts for your consideration.
It is commendable that, in the context of your love for this young Muslim man, you wish to observe Islamic laws even though you are of the Christian faith. However, the main challenge here is not whether you and your boyfriend can build present love for each other into a long lasting marital relationship. Left alone to do so, it is quite possible that a man and a woman might translate their love into a marital relationship. However, the reality is that the young man and his parents are from a different religious and cultural background. In the religious and cultural imagination of his parents, there is just no allowance for their son to have a premarital relationship and only a remote possibility exists that they can imagine their son being married to a Christian woman from a different cultural background. It is not “bad” that a man and a woman love each other because love itself is an emotion which has been made real by Allah, our Creator. Within Islamic teachings, it is possible for Muslim men to marry righteous and pious women from among the Christians and the Jews, however, it is best that you seek a local Muslim religious leader to achieve a better understanding of the conditions under which such a marriage would be allowed.
You mentioned that his parents are not willing to accept you even if you become a Muslim. We do not encourage people to become Muslim just for the pursuit of earthly goals such as marriage. A person must independently study the faith and come to the realization that he or she wishes to become a Muslim on his or her accord. Given the circumstances of his parents refusing to let their son have anything to do with you, the only option for you is to come to the painful realization that you will have to let go of this young man. Your heart will tell you that it is not possible to let go of this man that you love, but continuing to be involved with him will only make you love him more and the possibility that you can actually be with him will continue to be nonexistent.
Finally, we urge you to seek help from your family and trustworthy friends. Turn to them for advice and listen to what they have to say. It is most likely that they too will want to save you much heartache and pain. Breaking off all contact with him is the only way you will be able to allow time to heal your broken heart. Thank you for writing to us and we wish you the best.
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