First, it is important that you remind yourself of what you have stated in the last part of your message to us: you cannot be so obsessed with another human being that you spend more time thinking about them than you do remembering Allah Most High. Your heart should be inclined towards remembering Allah and towards engaging in actions which are pleasing to Allah. Spending so much time on the social websites trying to monitor his life, and being so overly concerned about him will most definitely move your heart away from the spiritual realm into the human, earthly realm, and cause you tremendous anxiety and distress. Human beings can and will let you down, but Allah invites you to a life of peace and tranquility if you organize your life in a way that worships Him, remembrance of Him, and actions pleasing to Him, are your main priorities.

Second, we understand that you have taken to fantasizing about a relationship with this young man, but we want to remind you that within Islamic teachings, you really have only two choices in terms of how to proceed. If you are certain that this young man is a potential candidate for marriage, then you have to take concrete actions such as involving your family and approaching him and his family for the purposes of exploring marriage. Of course you could use a middle person to determine his interest in marrying you, but the main point is that exploring marriage is the one and only option you have. The other option you have is to let go of this man from your thoughts, stop logging on to his social website, stop expecting him to chat with you on the Internet, etc. This will not be a simple decision or even an easy one, but it is not an impossible step to take. If you will not approach him for marriage, there is no other option for you other than to break off this one-sided relationship and let him go once and for all.

Finally, it seems most likely that you will not be able to approach him for marriage, and that you will have to let him go. At that point, you will have to take some time off from the Internet, and fill the time you have spent chasing him virtually by reading more Qur’an, to learn more about your religion, and to draw closer to Allah (Subhanahu wa T’ala). Since your desire for a relationship has been awakened, you should also think ahead to planning for your own marriage and talking to your parents about marriage in general. We know that you understand that there is no future for you and this young man, so please take the painful step of letting him go and focus on your relationship with Allah and your studies!

And Allah knows best.

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