It is such an honour to hear of such a marital relationship that despite the odds, you have been there for one another on all levels. We pray that the stressful situation which you find yourselves under do not get the better of you insha-Allah.

Your marital relationship demonstrates how much compassion plays a role in surviving, and oveecoming livfes challenges. This care and attention that you give to each other should not be trivialized by any means. However, as you said your circumstances can be enough to unsettle anyone, for without land to supply your basic needs one can be made destitute. The blessings of the country in which you live, is that they do provide social income support, but still there is nothing more honourable than earning your own sustenance.

Given the current economic crisis, and how much the banking institutions have played a role in this economic malaise it is not surprising that your husband finds difficulty in finding a job. It is not only in times of crisis like these that one should have many interests and hobbies, but in general one should have more than one hobby because only Allah (SWT) Knows where our rizq (sustenance bequeathed by Him) lies.

I always refer to a Headmaster of a school who once held an assembly for his students who were beginning their final year. He instructed them to have many interests and hobbies, because even if they are successful in getting the desired grades, and succeed at university in their chosen field, only Allah Knows where their rizq lies. He then went on to share a story about one of his friends, who could not find work after achieving his degree in engineering. His friend turned to his love of carpentry to occupy him, and from that love, he made ornate pieces of Arabesque furniture. Now his friend his happy, doing what he loves, and he earns a good living from it, as he now runs his own business.

• What does your husband love to do?

If your husband does not know, through voluntary work he can discover his other strengths, skills, and passions. By not feeling that he has been hard done by, and keeping his excpereince to himself, he can overcome much. He is not alone as much as he feels that he is, therefore it is important that he does not behave as if he is alone otherwise he will cut himself off completely.

Maybe this is what Allah (SWT) Knows is better for him, for you, and your family insha-Allah. If you can go on social income support for a short period, or if he can do odd jobs until he discovers his others talents, this would help to bridge the gap that you so rightly fear. In addition, if you can help out in some way, with a part time job, this would ease the pressure somewhat.

For further guidance, please try the following link(s):
Rich Relatives Neglecting Poor Relatives
I Feel Like a Loser
Our Needs Are Endless
Ramadan Advice: What's Mine is Mine
My Declining Standard of Living
Wasting the Rizq of Allah
Rizq (Provision) is Granted through Preordained Means
Coping With Negative Emotions