As salamu `alaykum,

Dear brother, thank you for writing to us. It is truly wonderful to see you so dedicated to Islam at such a young age. I would ask you to change nothing and to keep up your passionate work for the sake of Allah and His deen….

Just a bit of advice to you. First off, although you may want the best for people, especially your family, you must realize that preaching must be done with tact and diplomacy. You must find ways to get your message across in a manner that will be less offensive. That is why we all must learn different ways of communicating. Sometimes, preaching is not even the most effective way. If you see that people respond negatively to the direct approach, try to be more subtle or don’t even rely on the overt word, but try to set a good example. We must remember that the Prophet (SAW) taught his Companions to speak to people in a manner that they can understand. If you are speaking one language, but your family is rejecting that language you must find other ways to make your point. There is no point in telling them things that they will reject or ridicule.

Even though you may be confident that what you are saying is the truth, you have to put yourself where they are and try to see things from the perspective of the other. This is difficult but a must in any da’wah or counseling work. Don’t lose faith, though, it’s Allah’s way of helping you to improve your da’wah and become more refined in your communication, in sha 'Allah. At the end of the day, people have to want to change and choose to do so on their own. This means that they must see something in your message that will motivate them to embrace it on their own, by their own choosing. Islam is about the WILLFUL surrender to Allah, and there is no compulsion in it whatsoever. That means that a person’s heart must turn to God first. Focus on that and know that it is through knowledge, truth, beautiful language and wisdom that people are guided by Allah, in  sha 'Allah….

As for your troubles at school, my advice to you would be patience and moderation. Don’t go to extremes. Certainly don’t go around cursing people. They might be jealous of you, or perhaps they don’t quite know you or understand you and they feel they need to provoke you. Never mind them. If they harass you, let them be and don’t stay in their company. If you really want to throw them for a loop, when they harass you, give them a gift or a word of kindness and see how they react. The best is to show them that they can’t annoy you, that you are too strong to allow them to get to you. Try to keep company with those who are friendly, righteous, and respectful and don’t let the others get to you, because in the end that’s what they want. They are trying to provoke you, so show them the opposite and see what they do! It might be fun… J

Lastly, I encourage you to keep up with your da’wah efforts, but make sure you maintain balance in your life. You must not over do it and make sure you make time for other things that have equal rights over you. It is great that you are so passionate about helping others in Islam. But be mindful that in Islam knowledge does not come from repetition, but from practice, and implementation, and this can not be learnt in virtual reality. This might be lead you to want to continue your studies in the Islamic sciences. You should strongly consider it. It’s also important that when we speak, we speak from knowledge – either the knowledge we have acquired from others with knowledge or that which can be confirmed. That is why we must always be humble enough to either admit when we don’t know something or to find the answer from one who has it. Either way, it’s a blessing because we get to help others and learn at the same time.

I hope and pray your efforts are fruitful and that Allah makes you a vehicle for others to embark on the path to Him…. Wa salam

For further guidance, please try the following link(s):
Raising Children Islamically
Rights of the Child in Islam
Dutifulness to Parents
How to Instill Islamic Manners in Children