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Name of Questioner
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Street magic performer
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Hello Mr. Magic
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I know this is not one of the best questions anyone can ask but I think you will help me a lot if you answer. I am a 14-year-old who recently contacted you about homosexual problems I was having. Thankfully, I am handling my problem well. I am using the advice you gave me. If it were not for you, I would be lost and ignorant. But there is something else I would like to ask you. I am very interested in magic, and I have been practicing sleight of hand tricks for 2 years now, but there are several problems.
One of them has to do with my homosexual problem. I am lost. When I notice that a kid is sad, I immediately want to show him (or her) something to make them feel better. But, when it comes to small boys, that is where I am confused. Before, I used to have impure thoughts about boys. Now I do not. I have acknowledged the fact that the whole pedophile problem I was having is just an illusion that I subconsciously adapted to. Can it be considered as an illusion? Now I am fighting it, getting straight to the point. How do I know whether I want to do magic to the person to entertain them or I was just attracted to them? Do I have to take precautions? Do I have to keep away from them so that I am not tempted to go back to my previous situation? I feel strong enough to face them but I am not sure.
Another thing I would like to ask is: Is it ok to make money out of performing magic? What does Islam say about the proper way to make money? Is it ok to make money and have fun at the same time? Also, what can a person do to increase his or her self esteem? I have a lot more questions but I will not take a lot of your time. Maybe I will ask you later, with your permission of course. If I am asking these questions in the wrong place, please tell me. Thank you for everything you have done, for helping people and leading them to the straight path. May Allah reward you and may you have a wonderful life. You have changed my life around. I am very thankful that Allah guided me to this fantastic site.
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| Date | 16/Sep/2003 |
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Abdullah Abdur Rahman |
| Topic | Gender Issues |
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Thank you so ever much for your very kind words. We are very pleased to hear that you are tackling your problems with homosexual tendencies. We make du’a to Allah to help you completely overcome this problem in your life. With regards to performing magic for young children and your particular intentions, there are two points to be made.
First, if the magic shows are purely for entertainment purposes, then the following response from our Fatwa department makes it clear that such shows are acceptable in Islam.
Second, with regards to intentions, the Prophet Muhammad (PBUH) has clearly said that “Actions are but by intentions.” Therefore, if you keep your intentions clear, that you are only performing the magic acts to entertain the children, then Allah knows best your intentions. We want to pause here to caution you however.
Since you are facing challenges in overcoming your own homosexual tendencies, we strongly suggest that perhaps you should not have continued interaction with any young boys or girls for the time being. You should understand that Satan is constantly at work and will do his best to tempt you into returning to your homosexual tendencies. Fight this temptation! Do not let Satan have any chance to tempt you at all.
We urge you to seek professional help so that you can be sure that you are processing your feelings about homosexuality and permanently putting that part of your life behind you insha’allah.
Your question about whether or not it is permissible for you to perform magic shows for money is best answered by the Islamic scholars. Please submit your question to the Fatwa department. With regards to increasing your self-esteem, we encourage you to take advantage of many responses that are available under the search function, using the topic “Self-esteem issues.” Thank you for writing to us. And Allah knows best.
For further guidance please refer to the following links:
Magic Shows to Entertain Children
What steps can I take to build my self-esteem?
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