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Name of Questioner
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maria
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Did not get a job or find a husband after starting to wear the hijab
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First of all, I would like to thank you for your site. It is good to know that somewhere someone can understand and may be help me. I have been wearing the hijab for 5 years now and these years have been the hardest of my life. I cannot find a job or a husband and it seems that every thing I am doing is a failure. Nothing works for me. I know that Allah is testing my faith but I cannot go on anymore.
My mother is harrassing me to take the hijab off which is something I will never do. But I need money to live and I am depending on her so I do not know what to do to get out of this situation. Thank you for answering me. If the answer is to pray, than I am praying already.
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| Date | 29/Oct/2001 |
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IOL Counseling Team |
| Topic | Young Hearts & Minds |
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Observing Islamic teachings in the midst of criticism and opposition is indeed a test and you seem to be struggling by the Grace and Protection of Allah (swt). Your decision to wear the hijab has obviously caused you difficulties especially if none of your family members wear it.
On the other hand, do not give up encouraging individual family members to consider wearing the hijab. Do your best to be an example of modesty and decent behavior, all of which are extensions of a person wearing hijab. Perhaps through your struggle and steadfastness and the guidance from Allah (swt), some of your family members might take heed. But do not become sad or disappointed if they do not. Only Allah (swt) guides people!
We realize that it seems difficult to stay with your mother, accept her help, but still wear the hijab. If your mother makes a condition that you have to take off the hijab to get her assistance, you should talk to her. Tell her that you love her and respect her but you cannot go against the command of Allah (swt). If needs be, you might have to let her stop giving you the assistance. Be patient during that time and make do with what little you have. Your mother might realize how strong you are and actually change her mind about the hijab.
Turn back to Allah (swt) and seek His assistance. Ask Allah (swt) to guide your mother to change her mind about the hijab.
Insha'allah, your struggle will be rewarded in this life when Allah (swt) grants you a pious husband and in the hereafter as well! Keep up the struggle!
And Allah (swt) knows best.
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