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Zainab Al-Alwani
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Instructor of Fiqh and Islamic Studies, Graduate School of Islamic and Social Sciences
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Fatwas on Women's Issues
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Thursday,Jan 26 ,2006
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Makkah
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From... 13:00...To...14:30
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In the Name of Allah, Most Gracious, Most Merciful.
All praise and thanks are due to Allah, and peace and blessings be upon His Messenger.
Brothers and sisters, the session has already started. You can submit your questions. Please, make your questions short and clear so as to help us answer all your questions.
Yours,
Islam Online Fatwa Editing Desk.
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Hanane
- United Kingdom
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student
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I hope you con answer my question. As a new Muslimah, I was drawn to the peace of Islam. However, I need you to explain to me whether hitting one's wife about the head and throwing things at her as well as using abusive language about her and her family is permissible under any circumstances in Islam.
My husband behaves in this way when he is angry with me, often for minor things. And although he is very religious I am very worried about this aspect of his personality, especially since we have a 4 month old son. He thinks that his behavior is fully justifiable according to the Qur'an.
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In the Name of Allah, Most Gracious, Most Merciful.
All praise and thanks are due to Allah, and peace and blessings be upon His Messenger.
The behavior of your husband is not justified according to the Qur'an and the teachings of the Prophet and the way he dealt with his wives. The Prophet Muhammad (peace and blessings be upon him) said: "The best of you is those who are best to their wives, and I am the best to my wives."
As for Prophet's behavior with his wives, he never hit, insulted or used any foul language like the behavior you mentioned about your husband.
Your husband is in need of you help to take care of his anger in different ways, instead of beating or using negative behavior towards you. Counseling in your case is a must. If he is a religious man, find out if the imam there can help in this matter.
You can also read:
Islamic View of Emotional Abuse in Marital Life
Allah Almighty knows best.
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fathima
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When praying jama`h with husband or in a Mosque, can a woman say ameen at the end of Fatihah? Is it permissible to grow nails slightly and to use lipstick?
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In the Name of Allah, Most Gracious, Most Merciful.
All praise and thanks are due to Allah, and peace and blessings be upon His Messenger.
For the first question, a woman can say ameen loudly if she is praying with her husband, but at the Masjid it is advised not to be as loud as it would attract attention, so it should be said in a moderate voice along with other women.
Concerning the second question, it is the Sunnah of the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) to trim one's nails. Prophet Muhammad (peace and blessings be upon him) said: "Five things are akin to natural state of faith: …..and trimming nails…." So it is highly discouraged to grow nails.
As for using lipstick, if it is used for dry lips it is Ok, but it should not be in a color that makes the woman look as if she is wearing make-up.
Allah Almighty knows best.
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aisha
- United Kingdom
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student
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I have read and heard about the topic of women beautifying themselves, but it is such a debated topic. I don't know who's advice to take. I have 4 questions:
1. Is it permissible to wear perfume outside, not to attract attention but to feel fresh and clean?
2.Iam considering laser treatment for removing hair on my face and body, is that allowed?
3. I understand that women can wear makeup at home for their husbands, but are we allowed to wear it outside. If not, what about just eyeliner/kohl?
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In the Name of Allah, Most Gracious, Most Merciful.
All praise and thanks are due to Allah, and peace and blessings be upon His Messenger.
1. The perfume whose smell is hidden and only the person can feel, not others, is permissible. The prohibition is for wearing perfume that attracts others.
2. As for laser removal, there is nothing wrong as long as you avoid the eyebrows and you make sure you use a very safe and healthy method that would not cause you any harm in the future.
3. Wearing kohl is Ok as long as it is moderate and does not exceed the limit, but make-up is forbidden outside home.
Allah Almighty knows best.
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om ahmed
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I live in the US, and it is very hard to find a female Muslim OBGYN. So is it ok to go to just a female doctor regardless of her religion because some of them have no religion at all or to go to male Christian doctor?
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In the Name of Allah, Most Gracious, Most Merciful.
All praise and thanks are due to Allah, and peace and blessings be upon His Messenger.
The issue of experience and competence should rule over other criteria when choosing a doctor that is meant to take care of your health and treat you. It is you who can find a good Muslim woman and she is good doctor as well, that would be your best option. If not, then it would not make any difference to go to a non-Muslim affiliated to any religion as long as she is good doctor and well-experienced.
You can also read:
A Female Dentist Treating Male Patients
Allah Almighty knows best.
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Ann
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What to do? My husband doesn't give me food or clothes and I work and I'm always tired and do not have any power. He wants to divorce me because of this, but I do not want divorce. Can I make something that he won't divorce me?
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In the Name of Allah, Most Gracious, Most Merciful.
All praise and thanks are due to Allah, and peace and blessings be upon His Messenger.
It is the responsibility of the husband to sustain and maintain his wife. The wife does not have to work unless in specific situation. If the woman works it should be greatly appreciated rather than exploited. Allah says: "Let the man of means spend according to his means: and the man whose resources are restricted, let him spend according to what Allah has given him. Allah puts no burden on any person beyond what He has given him. After a difficulty, Allah will soon grant relief." (At-Talaq: 7)
You did not mention in your question the reasons that make your husband refuse to give you food or drink, but if the case is what you described, then it is an issue that requires professional handling. It is very important to find a counselor in your area where you can discuss the whole situation and he or she can suggest workable solutions for you. If the imam can do this job, that will be well and good.
Allah Almighty knows best.
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abeer
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I have a question about whether there is something called black magic or not. One Sheikh has told me that there is a lady who wrote for me and my husband to get divorce and that magic is affecting my health, could that be true, do we have to believe in that? I Am asking this question because my ex-husband came to me and said I don't know why I divorced you, that time I was like confused and I was floating couldn't think. If that is true, what should I do? Is there any specific verse or Surah from the Qur'an to help?
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In the Name of Allah, Most Gracious, Most Merciful.
All praise and thanks are due to Allah, and peace and blessings be upon His Messenger.
Magic is a science like other kinds of science and people learn it for different reasons. It is forbidden, as far as Islam is concerned, to learn magic or practice it.
The Qur'an refers to magic in Surat Al-Baqarah giving example of the harm that can cause between the two married couple as related to their intimate affairs: " They learned from them the means to sow discord between man and wife. But they could not thus harm anyone except by Allah's permission." (Al-Baqarah 2: 102)
But in the same verse Allah makes it clear the fact that magic can never harm without Allah's permission. So we should never exaggerate the power of magic, as nothing can harm or benefit us against Allah's plan or will.
There are lots of verses and Surahs to read for protection from magic: ayat al-Kursi, the two last Surahs from the Qur'an called "al-mu'awithatain."
You can also read:
Black Magic: Rulings & Remedy
Allah Almighty knows best.
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Samah
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I have a question regarding the rights of a Christian or Jewish mother (I will use the abbreviation POB from now on for simplicities sake) over her Muslim children after she gets divorced from the Muslim father.
As I understand the children can stay with their mother until they are seven if there is no threat of her trying to convert them. After that they must go stay with the father to preserve their Muslim character. However, does the POB mother still have visitation rights? If so are those visitation rights equivalent to the rights she would have if she were Muslim? Also I understand once the children are mature they can choose whichever parent they want to stay with. Once the child reaches this age can he/she decide to stay with the POB mother? I would assume that by then they would be grounded in Islam enough to make a good decision. Plus, everyone wants to stay with the mother at some point even. If they decide to stay with the father does the mother still have visitation rights? Also does the POB mother have the right to be consulted considering major and minor decisions about the child. I have asked these questions because I am shocked when I read stories of Muslim people who abduct their children and never let the mother see them and be a part of their lives, just because she happens to be POB or some other religion. The mothers love is such a special love that it cannot be replaced by any other female relative of the family. Many of these people say that their actions are justified by Islam, but I fail to understand this. Why would Islam allow a POB woman to be the head of a Muslim household and be the mother of Muslim children, and then, in the unfortunate case of divorce, tell the family to throw her out of their lives?
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In the Name of Allah, Most Gracious, Most Merciful.
All praise and thanks are due to Allah, and peace and blessings be upon His Messenger.
First of all, Islam teaches love, compassion and kindness in dealing with parents regardless of their faith. In case of inter-faith marriage, the parents need to deal in a way that is respectable and teaches the children to reverence both parents alike.
In case of divorce and the rights that follows, I can outline them in the following:
1. In case the wife keeps her religion, there should be conditions to be agreed upon as regards the teaching and upbringing of children. If the children are little, they will be with the mother and they have to be taught in Islam even though the wife is not a Muslim. This can be done by the husband during his visits to his children. Or by other Muslim ladies who are friends of the wife.
2. In case the children choose to live with the Muslim husband, visitation, respect and acts of kindness towards the mother continues to be emphasized. The husband must respect the right of children to see their mother, do good to her and help her in every possible means. He should never mention the mother in such a way that will make her look bad in front of the kids.
3. In case the children choose to live with the mother, Christian or Jewish, then conditions of teaching and upbringing should be all clear. The husband gets visitation rights, the wife should never take the children away from the Muslim environment nor cut them off from the Muslim community, the mother should provide clean and healthy environment for children to learn about their faith and should help them choose Muslim friends as well. That would affect the relationship with children and ex-husband positively and saves them from a lot of troubles.
Allah Almighty knows best.
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Muslima
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Is it allowed for a Muslim woman to wear golden pendant with her zodiac sign if she doesn't believe in horoscopes? Just for pleasure. Thank you.
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In the Name of Allah, Most Gracious, Most Merciful.
All praise and thanks are due to Allah, and peace and blessings be upon His Messenger.
I would discourage against such thing because it could be a slip to other major mistakes, and it will at least affect you mentally into believing in horoscopes.
You can also read:
Reading horoscopes
Allah Almighty knows best.
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Rasha
- United Arab Emirates
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The fatwa sessions are very useful and I have gained a lot from this site.
My question is now about the interaction between women & men especially in the new generation as all women are not wearing Hijab so it is a problem for men to interact with them when it comes to a marriage function etc. What is your opinion about the same, it is not easy to keep away from this type of function and I think you also won't suggest the same. Thanks.
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In the Name of Allah, Most Gracious, Most Merciful.
All praise and thanks are due to Allah, and peace and blessings be upon His Messenger.
Your are true that it has become a serious issue. To put it briefly, neither total isolation nor free mixing is healthy. Guided interaction is the best option. Regulations from both sides highly stressed. Men are to lower their gaze, avoid dealing with women who dresses provocatively and can cause fitnah, and avoid being in an isolated place where no third person is available. Women are to dress Islamically, talk ethically and in away that does not attract attention and avoid seclusion as well.
Allah Almighty knows best.
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Sis
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I am married to a Muslim man. I love him very much, but he doesn't pay much attention to me, rude with me sometimes, doesn't respect me. He is also not very practicing, he often misses Salah and watches videos with half-nude girls. Should I divorce him or not?
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In the Name of Allah, Most Gracious, Most Merciful.
All praise and thanks are due to Allah, and peace and blessings be upon His Messenger.
You should give him another chance, as he may repent and become better Muslim and you won't lose your marriage and children, if you have any. If he does not change, then both of you need to go for counseling before taking a drastic change in your life, I mean divorce.
Allah Almighty knows best.
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Laila
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What punishment will get those girls who do not wear Hijab?
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In the Name of Allah, Most Gracious, Most Merciful.
All praise and thanks are due to Allah, and peace and blessings be upon His Messenger.
I would not use "punishment" because the purpose of Hijab is to purify a woman's character and elevate her spiritual state. In the midst of the verses about Hijab Allah says, "and repent to Allah you all, O believers so that you may prosper."
From my experience with ladies that do not wear Hijab, when punishment is mentioned it has negative impact on how they look at the issue of covering in general. That is one of the reasons that some women took off their Hijab after they put it on.
Allah Almighty knows best.
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sabir
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Are artificial teeth allowed?
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In the Name of Allah, Most Gracious, Most Merciful.
All praise and thanks are due to Allah, and peace and blessings be upon His Messenger.
Yes, they are allowed as long as they are used for treating a decay or loss of original teeth. What is discouraged is extravagance in beautifying one's teeth in terms of unnecessary replacement and the like.
Allah Almighty knows best.
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In the Name of Allah, Most Gracious, Most Merciful.
All praise and thanks are due to Allah, and peace and blessings be upon His Messenger.
Brothers and sisters, we are so sorry for not answering all your questions because the time is over. We apologize for any inconvenience. Do keep in touch. Join us in coming sessions.
Yours,
Islam Online Fatwa Editing Desk.
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