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The Parent-Child Relationship
Islam recognizes the inherent bonds of love that exist between parents and their children. However, there are certain guidelines which have been put forth in the Quran and in the teachings of the Prophet Muhammad (saas) which explicitly describe the rights and obligations of both parents and children.
Child's Rights, Parents' Obligations
From the outset, Islam has placed great importance on the rights of the children and the reciprocal obligations of the parents. After careful review, a few principles can be presented as a summary of the general approach to children. First and foremost, from conception onwards, the child is in no way to be a cause of harm to its parents. While the mother is to suckle the child for up to two years and the father is charged with overseeing the welfare and subsistence of both mother and child, the Quran clearly states that in carrying out either responsibility, "no one should be charged beyond one's capacity." (Qur'an, 2:233). Indeed, the verse continues to declare that "a mother should not be made to suffer because of her child, nor should he to whom the child is born (be made to suffer) because of his child." Much as the child can bring no harm to its parents, by implication we understand that the parents are equally responsible to reciprocate and to cause the child no harm. Parents are encouraged to be gentle and kind with their children even when they intend to discipline them. In addition, parents are enjoined to protect their children by providing for both their physical and emotional development. Food, clothing and shelter are the rights of a child as are a peaceful and nurturing living environment and access to a sound education.
The Qur'an also recognizes that the parent-child relationship is built upon a foundation of mutual love, such that for any parent, children are an immense source of joy, pride and strength. Starting from infancy, the child brings great moments of joy for her parents. The parents especially form a close bond with the child, attending to her daily needs, adjusting to her sleeping schedule, playing with her, and holding her in their arms for endless numbers of hours and sacrificing their own comfort. The baby's first words bring great joy to the parents. As the baby grows up, crawling, taking steps towards walking, and gaining strength, the parents take great pride in that and often share every new development with family and friends. The child has the right to be provided a safe and secure environment while these new physical and mental developments are taking place.
This is the first in a series of articles that will outline the parent-child relationship in Islam.
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