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In Islam, a chat at the water cooler should avoid any backbiting or malicious gossip.
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Don’t
Bite Back
As
mentioned before, Islam creates clear-cut parameters for the use of speech. In
addition, Islam specifically points out certain abuses and prohibits them. An
example of the abuse of speech is backbiting.
There
is a mention of this within the Qur'an because, as Muslims believe, God will
hold people responsible on the Day of Judgment for their actions, which include
their speech (whether oral or written).
The
Arabic term for backbiting is "gheebah" and we find a
derivative of that term appearing in the Qur'an:
[O
you who believe! Shun much suspicion; for some suspicion is a crime. And spy not
on each other, neither backbite one another. Would one of you love to eat the
flesh of his dead brother? You abhor that (so abhor the other)! And keep your
duty (to Allah), for Allah is Relenting, Merciful.] (Al-Hujurat 49:12)
The
Qur'an, as can be seen in the verse above, gives a terrible metaphor of people
who speak ill of others in their absence. The actual speech involved in
backbiting is described as eating the flesh, and the condition of the absence of
the person being talked about is likened to death.
Furthermore,
this applies even if what is being said about an individual is true. This means
that even an expression of truth has its limitations.
Prophet
Muhammad (peace be upon him) once asked his Companions, “Do you know what
backbiting is?” They said, “God and His Messenger know best.” He said,
“Backbiting is to mention something about your brother that he hates for you
to say about him.” So some people asked him, “What if what you are saying is
true?” The Prophet answered, “If the ill that you talk about him is true,
then you are backbiting him, and if what you say about him is not true, then not
only are you backbiting, but you are also lying, which is an even greater
injustice.” (Muslim)
Restrictions,
Restrictions
These
restrictions that Islam places are intended to prevent a number of social ills.
These include the publicizing of evil. In the Qur'an, God says what means:
[Those
who love that slander should be spread among those who believe, theirs will be a
painful punishment in the world and the Hereafter. Allah knows and you know
not.] (An-Nur 24:19)
In
addition, the responsibility placed with regards to the words they say and write
is based on the realization of the innate weaknesses of human beings. Therefore,
if someone comments publicly and without wisdom and tact on someone else's
behavior, this action puts the one being commented on in a difficult and
embarrassing situation. This
embarrassment and a possible stubbornness will make it almost impossible for him
or her to correct themselves, creating a situation in which there is an
insistence on continuing doing something wrong or behaving inappropriately.
The
more graceful and Islamic way to deal with this situation is for each person to
realize that everyone has a weakness and that drawing someone's attention to a
certain weakness has its own etiquette and manners. Public embarrassment would
only lead to an aggravation of any given situation. Therefore, in Islam, advice
should be given in person, in private, and courteously.
Another
important factor is that the prohibition of malicious slander and of backbiting
controls other weaknesses people may have, such as vengefulness, boredom, or a
sense of curiosity in peoples’ private lives, which are negative attitudes and
motives.
People
also backbite at times in order to make fun of others, a concept that is
rejected and frowned upon in Islam. As God created every human being with his or
her dignity, therefore, this dignity must be preserved and people should respect
it.
The
Exceptions to the Rule
As
with many rules, talking about other people is not absolutely discouraged and
there are exceptions. However, as with Islamic exceptions to rules set down,
these are not arbitrary and can not be misused.
Muslims
believe that God holds people responsible for their words and every person
should use their conscience and make sure of the intention behind every word
spoken or written. Some Muslim scholars have been so meticulous as to actually
list the exceptions to this rule and specify them.
Some
examples are: speaking out against oppression and tyranny. In fact, this is an
obligation in Islam. It is imperative for a Muslim who has either experienced
oppression or has witnessed it to speak out. The Qur’an tells us that any
oppression should be exposed, even if it is the oppression of a Muslim or a
close family member. However, speaking out against this should be done with the
clear intention of establishing justice on an individual, social, national or
international level.
The
Qur’an says what means:
[Allah
does not like evil to be voiced publicly, except for those who have suffered
injustice.] (An-Nisaa’ 4:148)
Another
situation in which talking about people is allowed and in fact encouraged is in
the case of a clear social ill. This would include speaking out against crime
organizations, or industries or individuals who are harming the community in
some way. However, when possible, Islamic etiquette recommends that when
possible, personal advice should first given to those who are causing the harm
before the matter is publicized.
A
third example would be if a person is seeking a religious ruling or social
counseling that would require him or her to explain the context of certain
situations that may include the words and actions of another person to a
religious scholar or counselor. Again, as with all actions in Islam, this should
be done with a pure intention to solve a genuine problem. In addition, Islam
recommends to avoid naming names if it is unnecessary for the person solving the
problem to know it.
There
are other situations that Muslim scholars have specified as being exceptions,
but the key to all speech, whether written or spoken, is the intention. Islam
stresses that the person speaking or writing should genuinely intend something
noble or good and conscientiously observe proper etiquette and manners, as every
person will be held accountable for every word they said or wrote.
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Adapted from a lecture in Dr. Jamal
Badawi's Islamic
Teachings series.
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Dr. Jamal Badawi is a professor at sint Mary's University in Halifax,
Canada, where he teahes in the areas of management and religious studies. He is
the author of several works on various aspects of islam.