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In
the Name of Allah, Most Gracious, Most Merciful.
All
praise and thanks are due to Allah, and peace and
blessings be upon His Messenger.
One
of the most tragic and consequential sins in which man
engages is adultery. This heinous crime destroys families,
lives and destroys within some people the hope of
attaining Allah’s pleasure. But in Islam, the door of
repentance is always open, only that the repentance itself
demands a resolve to cease from a sinful activity. A
person who has engaged himself in an adulterous
relationship must resolve to cease from the sinful sexual
activity and return to Allah, seeking His forgiveness.
Allah will surely turn unto him and shower him with His
mercy.
This indicates that, brother, you should never lose hope
of gaining Allah's mercy. As you have indeed committed a
major sin, you should repent very seriously and
immediately. Rush to Allah and beseech Him to forgive you.
Allah says in the Qur'an:
[Say:
'O my Servants who have transgressed against their souls!
Despair not of the Mercy of Allah: for Allah forgives all
sins: for He is Oft-Forgiving, Most Merciful.']
(Az-Zumar 39: 53)
[Allah
accepts the repentance of those who do evil in ignorance
and repent soon afterwards; to them will Allah turn in
mercy: For Allah is full of knowledge and wisdom.]
(An-Nisa' 4: 17
)
Moreover, the Glorious Qur’an gives glad tiding to
penitent people who having committed sin such as Zina
regretted their sins, determined not to do them once more,
and performed righteous deeds that Allah will replace
their sins with Hasanat (rewards). Allah says,
[(And
true servants of Allah are)those who cry not unto any
other god along with Allah, nor take the life which Allah
hath forbidden save in (course of) justice, nor commit
adultery and whoso doeth this shall pay the penalty; the
doom will be doubled for him on the Day of Resurrection,
and he will abide therein disdained for ever; save him who
repenteth and believeth and doth righteous work; as for
such, Allah will change their evil deeds to good deeds.
Allah is ever Forgiving, Merciful. And, whosoever
repenteth and doeth good, he verily repenteth toward Allah
with true repentance.]
(Al-Furqan 25: 68-71)
Brother, be keen on performing your prayers regularly, and
always get yourself more involved in Islamic work. You
should focus on going to the Masjid (mosque),
reading the Qur'an on a daily basis, attending Islamic
classes, and try to be away from any company that does not
remind you of Allah. Give Sadaqah (charity) to the
poor and the needy with the intention to purify yourself
and expiate your sins. Finally you should determine not to
commit this sin again.
Whoever commits Zina should repent and turn
penitent to Allah and beseech His Forgiveness, and resolve
firmly never to commit such sin again, exactly as the milk
never returns back to the udder.
Some scholars are so strict, as they opine that the
adulterer should go to the family of his female partner
and confess to them and beg their pardon, because this is
considered peoples' rights, and people should forgive him
for his transgression. This means that a man, after
committing Zina, should go and tell someone that he
has committed Zina with his wife or daughter and
that he asks their forgiveness. Definitely, such thing is
unreasonable, for it poses untold risks for a person
making such confession.
So, reliable scholars state that repentance is a matter
between the sinner and His Almighty Lord. If you show
remorse and regret and seek Allah's Forgiveness,
hopefully, Allah will forgive you.
There is no legal status concerning you and your wife in
such a case. I hope you would keep that matter a secret,
and preserve your home and your family and never commit
such sin again. I advise you to turn penitent to Allah to
help you and always seek His Forgiveness.
Allah
Almighty knows best.
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