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Thread: My Husband Doesn't Want Kids!
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Dec 1, 2009 2:37 AM
by: ayesha00
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My Husband Doesn't Want Kids!
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Nov 4, 2009 2:21 PM
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Can anyone tell me what the deen says about a person who is married and doesnt want to have kids. Why do muslims get married? What is a women to do when her husband doesnt want to have kids?
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Re: My Husband Doesn't Want Kids!
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Nov 6, 2009 7:37 PM
in response to:
athabee
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This is a very strange thing sister. Every body likes to have children even 1 or 2. In case of your husband, I think it is his right not to have kids, better than mistreat them anyway. However, he should’ve told the woman he wants to marry, before they got married, that he does not want to have kids. If she accepts, it’s fine and there’s no problem, if not he should search for a woman who can not have kids for medical reasons. He has no right to marry a woman then tell her ‘I do not want kids’, this is cheating and lying and not being honest at all. Sister, try to talk to him, this is not his right to decide to deny you your right to be a mother. Try to talk to him calmly and convince him and be patient. Let him take his time; try to take him to places where he can see how a blessing families are. After you give him all the time to think, if he still insists that he doesn’t want kids at all then you have 2 choices, either to accept that if you want and I doubt it, or you ask for divorce and marry a natural man who would be honest from the beginning. May Allah help you and guide you to the best.
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Re: My Husband Doesn't Want Kids!
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Nov 7, 2009 3:51 AM
in response to:
athabee
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I think your husband is being cruel to you.
He should be brought back to madrassah or Islamic school to know the meaning of marriage in Islam.
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Re: My Husband Doesn't Want Kids!
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Nov 7, 2009 11:16 AM
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athabee
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Salaam Sis, sorry to know that ur husband does not want kids. Did u talk to your mother in law about this problem ? May be , she can convince him by saying that she would love to have her grandchildern. kids are a blessings from Allah , a precious gift. Why your husband doen not want kids , any specific reason . Recite the ayat from the Quran that has described how pious Muslims should make dua to Allah to be blessed with pious wife and kids.
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Re: My Husband Doesn't Want Kids!
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Dec 1, 2009 2:37 AM
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athabee
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I hope this helps. Fatwa Title :Wife wants to have another child but husband has other plans for herFatwa Date :07 Shawwaal 1422 / 23-12-2001QuestionI would like to have another child, but my husband doesn't. he wants me to study something that I don't want to study. I am not interested in it and most people who study/work it are men. He want me to study for 4-5 years, and then to have another child. Please advice what should I do. FatwaPraise be to Allah, the Lord of the World; and blessings and peace be upon our Prophet Muhammad and upon all his Family and Companions. If, as you mentioned, your husband wants you to study and work in a mixed environment delay having a child, then you are not obliged to obey him because he is ordering you to commit a sin. The Prophet said: "No one should be obeyed in orders that are against Allah's Orders". So, try to convince your husband of the primary task of the woman which is to educate the children and look after the home. In fact, the role of the woman in her home is a major contribution. On the other hand, there is no harm if the woman does other work if necessary. But such work should not be among mixed sexes. Her work should fit her very nature and should not be contrary to her primary role. Allah knows best. Fatwa answered by:The Fatwa Center at Islamweb
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