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Thread: I Quarreled With A Friend, Can You Help Me?
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Nov 3, 2009 9:44 AM
by: yesmeena
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I Quarreled With A Friend, Can You Help Me?
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Oct 24, 2009 10:02 AM
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I live in an Europe country and I thank god for keeping my religion(Islam)in my heart.This is were the problem lies,I go to secondary school and as people now that here there isn't many Muslims so you may befriend people who are Christians.So what I want to point out,is that I have fought with a friend since a month,just after Eid.Shes Muslim too and what we fought about was a stupid thing about going out to the shop in school and I told her I may not go unless I ask my parents but I had no phone.In conclusion she called me names and I did too and we never talked to each other since then.Since then even others started to be anger at me and when I say an opinion on something they scream at and say its too extreme.I tried saying that this is my opinion and that's your opinions. Everyone is different and they have different opinions and if they had the same opinions there would of been no wars and conflicts in the world. Can anyone suggest something I can do now? Message was edited by: Moderators
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Re: Can anyone help me with this?URGENT ADVICE NEEDED,PLEZ COMMENT
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Oct 26, 2009 5:48 PM
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yesmeena
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Yesmeena, first you were right you should tell your parents where you're going so they will not worry about you. However, you were both wrong you should not call each other names like that and you should stick together. Our prophet said that muslims should not be angry at eachother over 3 days and the best is that who starts by saying Asalam Alaykum, I hope it will be you Yesmeena.
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Re: Can anyone help me with this?URGENT ADVICE NEEDED,PLEZ COMMENT
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Oct 26, 2009 7:27 PM
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Maryam95
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nooo,i wasn't the first to call her names,she said it first and I was like i shouldn't call her names but I'm not going to just listening to her and being called name in front of others.
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Re: Can anyone help me with this?URGENT ADVICE NEEDED,PLEZ COMMENT
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Oct 27, 2009 10:12 AM
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Maryam95
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yea,i have forgotten her as a friend and i don't feel for doing that.
even now as i said in my post when the group of people at lunch time talk about something evern1 goes against my opinion and say its too extreme.
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Re: Can anyone help me with this?URGENT ADVICE NEEDED,PLEZ COMMENT
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Oct 31, 2009 3:51 AM
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yesmeena
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how every one goes against ur opinion?? can u give us some example?? n u know when u will say salam to her and will forgive her for watever was wrong at her side, Allah will fight with her for you, and if u were doing one thing according to Islam that was not to go out without ur parent's permission, then why to go against Islam in the other matter.. go and say slam to her as for Muslim it is not allowed to remain angry with his/her Muslim brother/sister for more then three days... If we say that we are following Islam then follow it in each and every aspect..though we some times think that it is going against our ego.. but wat peace of mind and heart we get from forgiving others and by being the first one to go back n slam they u ll cum to know after experience.. so go back to her with full faith in Allah and see wat happens.. :) (that will be good inshAllah)
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Re: Can anyone help me with this?URGENT ADVICE NEEDED,PLEZ COMMENT
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Oct 31, 2009 11:00 AM
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monaiiui
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an example would be when one of them invited me to her party and I had told her I wasn't able to go as it was mixed and there will be music and other things.So then the rest where like why? there's nothing wrong in going and one had then said your opinion is soooo EXTREME.I was like its not,this is my religion and this is what learnt and your Muslim so you should know this.Then I just stopped talking and walked off.
As for the what had happened with this friend,I have forgotten about what happened and I don't want to be her friend again after she said all those bad words to me.
All I want now is to know how to avoid people going against your own opinion,everyone cant have the same opinions about something!
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Re: Can anyone help me with this?URGENT ADVICE NEEDED,PLEZ COMMENT
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Nov 1, 2009 6:53 AM
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yesmeena
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Yesmeena, when you advice someone always try to do it privately. In private is an advice but in public it's a scandal. You can always refuse nicely with a smile and do not walk off unless it is something really big.
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Re: Can anyone help me with this?URGENT ADVICE NEEDED,PLEZ COMMENT
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Nov 1, 2009 9:12 AM
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Maryam95
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well,you see sometimes these talks happen when we all talk about something,its always in a group not with one person.It does become big so that's why I walk as I cant take it anymore.I refuse or say its my opinion and you have your own opinions
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Re: Can anyone help me with this?URGENT ADVICE NEEDED,PLEZ COMMENT
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Nov 1, 2009 6:39 PM
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yesmeena
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Yasmeena.. u know islam teaches patience and tolerance.. ok.. n when u fight and quarrell with ur non muslim frnds they get a chance to say.. Muslim extremist!! and these things.. so when u are talking to your frnds, try to be patient.. dnt get hyper at once.. this thing gives them chance to make fun of you.. i m also living in europe just like you, but i ave never quarelled with my non-muslim friends, u know why? just to attract them to our religion..to show them that we are not extremist... ok n about these discussions like going on parties, n out with frnd, whenever u feel that this type of discussion is going to be started just leave that group and go out some where, and if u want to join them, and if they insist u to go with them u can say them that you have some work at home, or you have to study or any such thing.. but dnt quarell or fight.. see when u ll be patient then Allah will automatically make things easy for you... hope u understand.. :)!!
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Re: Can anyone help me with this?URGENT ADVICE NEEDED,PLEZ COMMENT
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Nov 3, 2009 9:44 AM
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monaiiui
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yea I understand what your saying but the problem is that the group of friends I have is mixed,there's Christians and Muslims.When one of those say their opinion and I say mine then the Christians say why? your both Muslims so why don't you go say for example to a party or not allowed to something that shes allowed to do.
Thats where the problem lies you see.
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