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There
are many stories of conversions to the religion of Allah. Many are
very touching and poignant and serve us as a reminder that Allah
guides who He wills, often in ways and in circumstances we could never
imagine. We would like to highlight in this article that among the
most inspiring and illustrative of the fact that a pure heart and
intention is rewarded with guidance, are those stories of our Muslim
sisters who have accepted Islam.
Considering
the intense anti-Islamic and hostile media propaganda these past few
years, some with a particularly strong emphasis on the 'supposed'
degrading position of women in Islam, we feel that those women are
exceptional who accept Islam and who were able to separate the
negative stereotyping and nonsense from the reality of faith.
Women
are most clearly the signposts of Islam and whether we Muslim men like
it or not, we are often judged by the perception people have of just
how we treat women. Muslim women stand out more so than men when they
fully practice their religion, one reason obviously being their
observance of Islamic dress that covers and obscures the shape of
their bodies completely and in many cases the face as well. However,
what most people are not aware of is what is 'beyond the veil' (to
borrow a title from one of the plethora of anti-Islamic books on
Muslim women).
Seeing
Through The Fog
Muslim
women, especially converts, are by no means the empty-headed,
submissive, rejects of western society that some essays and articles
written by so-called journalists and researchers would have us
believe. Most of those non-Muslim writers in many cases just seek to
find the sensational or even make it up to sell books or papers or to
serve their own preset agendas or to validate their own philosophical
or ideological positions. They usually fail miserably to understand or
relate the true underlying reasons for so many Muslim women's
acceptance of and strict adherence to Islam.
It
is this writer's opinion that much of what is written by such people,
especially the women amongst them, stems from their inability to face
the reality of the true motivations of intelligent, thoughtful,
western women, both young and old, for accepting Islam. It would be an
indictment of the shortcomings within their own culture and lifestyles
and perhaps force even their own personal revaluation which often
involves the type of critical examination that most people simply
choose to avoid. Biased, slanted, and incomplete reporting is often
due to plain old ignorance and significant doses of arrogance and
pride.
The
acceptance of Islam by women has mostly nothing to do with mere
rejection of cultural tradition, men, or economics so much as it does
with a sincere search for the truth motivated by a strong desire to
serve Allah properly. It becomes clear
to the thoughtful, truth seeking woman that what western society and
culture (or eastern for that matter), even at its highest levels has
to offer, is a far cry from what they, and all women, need. Namely,
true freedom from the oppression of men and the tyranny of religion.
Spiritual fulfillment and right guidance and living that leads to real
happiness and satisfaction as well as true success in this life and
the life to come is what they seek. Only real Islam offers this.
We
present the true stories of two such thoughtful women to serve us all
as a reminder of the substance of this great deen and the kind of
consideration each and every person should give to his or her role and
purpose in life and their relationship with Allah. Some editing has
been done only for the sake of space and minor grammatical
corrections.
Background
Of A European Catholic Girl
"As
a child I believed in God. My family was Christian (Catholic). After
the death of my mother ... we did not often go to church but Christian
values were a part of my upbringing. I had a strong faith in God. At
school we were taught that Jesus ('alaihi salaam) was the son of God
who came down to earth to save us from our sins. For some reason,
alhamdulillah, I never took these stories seriously. I believed of
course in Jesus ('alaihi salaam) but not really as the son of God.
Christians pray to Jesus ('alaihi salaam): I prayed only to God....
As
a teenager I questioned my faith for the first time. I wanted
spiritual fulfillment for I did not feel at ease in the culture I was
growing up in. However, I always felt disappointed when I went to
churches. I could not accept the words in the hymns and prayers that
spoke of father God and a son Jesus. The church failed to touch my
heart and so I turned away from religion altogether as many western
people have done....For many years I was then lost and confused.
Christianity, being the only faith I knew had let me down."
Early
Analysis
"Western
culture promotes materialism at the expense of the spiritual. It
pretends to have liberated women and the western media frowns upon
Islam as oppressive to female rights. However, I struggles to fit into
this culture. At the age of sixteen I remember feeling alienated,
unable to fully participate in the social and cultural environment....
I
became extremely conscious of my appearance at all times, insecure
about the shape of my body and the clothes I was wearing. So much
pressure is placed on women in the west to conform to an impossible
ideal of beauty that demands them to be thin, fit and wear provocative
clothes. Women are not allowed to grow old and their bodies are for
public scrutiny. Eating disorders (anorexia and bulimia nervosa) are
very common. At the same time they have to have brilliant careers and
be good partners to their husbands, boyfriends and children. Family
values are weakening amongst the youth so that there is an increasing
number of single parents...."
Finding
A Muslim And Islam
"I
was clever at school, alhamdulillah, and came to study German and
Russian at Cambridge....I was more concerned with seeking emotional,
spiritual as well as intellectual fulfillment. Yet, at this point I
did not know Islam....Thus the difficulties I encountered in trying to
belong to a culture which was alien to my nature, in trying to conform
to the social expectations of women, prepared me for (acceptance of)
Islam, since it is in the light of these personal struggles that I was
first able to appreciate its true sense and beauty; how it is really a
religion which accords with human nature at the deepest level....I met
a Muslim who inspired me with her serenity, the light which seemed to
somehow emanate from her whole being; the light of faith, deep and
untroubled. I still had many insecurities about myself and was unable
to find a way out from my troubles which often seemed to engulf me
completely as often happens when people do not know God....This friend
told me of Soorah Al-Ikhlaas:
Say:
He is Allah the One and Only
Allah The Self-Sufficient Master Whom all creatures need
He does not have children, nor was He given birth to
And there is none co-equal or comparable unto Him
I
became drawn to Islam, for this was of course what I already
believed.... Alhamdulillah, the sisters in Cambridge welcomed me with
their hearts and helped me to gain knowledge I needed to become a
Muslim. After five months I knew that it was right and said the
shahaadah....There is not a day when I do not thank Almighty for
responding so completely, with such love and mercy to my needs.
Alhamdulillah."
Allahu
Akbar! This women is like so many others whom Allah has opened their
hearts. Perhaps the non-Muslim reader of this will reflect. Read the
next story of Sister Haneefah.
Sister
Haneefah: Another Singer, A Different Tune, Yet The Same Song
"As
a Christian convert to Islam I can only present my personal experience
and reasons for rejecting the "freedom" that women claim to
have in this (western European) society in favor of the only religion
that truly liberates women by giving us a status and position which is
completely unique when compared with that of our non-Muslim
counterparts."
"Before
coming to Islam I had strong feminist tendencies and recognized that
where the woman was concerned, a lot of shuffling around had been
going on...new 'women's issues' being raised without the previous ones
being satisfactorily resolved. Like many women of my background I
would accuse Islam of being a sexist religion, discriminating,
oppressing and giving men the greater privileges. All this coming form
a person who didn't even know Islam. One who had been blinded due to
ignorance and had accepted this deliberately distorted definition of
Islam."
The
Quest For Truth Reaps Its Rewards
"However
despite my criticisms of Islam, inwardly I wasn't satisfied with my
own status as a woman in this society....There was clearly a great
contradiction between what women are told in theory and what actually
happens in practice....The more I pondered, greater emptiness I felt
within. I was slowly beginning to reach a stage where my
dissatisfaction with my status as a woman in this society, was really
a reflection of my greater dissatisfaction with the society itself.
Everything seemed to be degenerating backwards, despite all the claims
that the 1990's was going to be the decade of success and prosperity.
Something vital seemed to be missing from my life and nothing would
fill this vacuum.
Being
a Christian didn't do anything for me, and I began to question the
validity of only remembering God one day a week - Sundays! As with
many other Christians too, I had become disillusioned by the hypocrisy
of the Church and I was becoming increasingly unhappy with the concept
of the Trinity and the deification of Jesus ('alaihi salaam).
Eventually, I began to look into Islam."
"I
was surprised. What I read and learned taught me a lot about myself as
a woman, and also about where the real oppression of women lies: in
every other system and way of life outside Islam. Muslim women have
been given their rights in every aspect of the religion with clear
definitions of their role in society - as have men - with no
injustices against either of them.... So having amended my
misconceptions about the true status of women in Islam, I was now
looking further. I wanted to find that thing which was going to fill
the vacuum in my life.
My
attention was drawn towards the beliefs and practices of Islam.... By
this time I had begun to meet practicing Muslim women and how I felt
so secure and welcome in their company! There was a sense of humility
about them and I wanted to share in that.... Alhamdulillah, I accepted
Islam willingly."
Living,
Learning And Never Turning Back
"Through
my reading, researching and attending lectures, I have come to know my
Rabb. I have come closer to understanding some of His names and
Attributes.... I can appreciate much more why the true Muslim scholars
emphasize so strongly for Muslims to learn about Allah - His Asmaa wa
Sifaat - before trying to reason with Allah's laws.
Unfortunate
I would have been had I taken the stance that 'Islam gives the best
deal to women' and made this the reason for embracing Islam, because
then my faith would have been without a firm ground and sooner or
later I would have come across some laws ordained by Allah that I
couldn't logically/rationally understand or see the wisdom behind.
[Islamic law never contradicts sound reason and rationale, however
each individual may or may not have reached understanding of it. The
writer is making clear that she learned that one cannot make Islam
into what they percieve it should be, but should rather accept it as
it is. - Ed.] Had I not studied the foundation of belief, namely
Tawheed and looked at how Allah describes Himself in His Book, perhaps
I would still be in darkness."
The
Main Reason For Women Turning To Islam In A Muslim Woman's Own Words
"The
reason why women why women are turning to Islam must certainly have
something to do with the honor that Islam gives them and the equality
with which it deals with people, not only in gender, but also in terms
of race, nationality, class etc. However, the overriding reason why I
and so many others like me were attracted to Islam was because Islam
answered the most important question which I had ever asked: 'Why am I
here on this earth?' So I crossed the divide and managed to see what
lies on either side...Alhamdulillah I chose Islam."
Well
said. And may Allah reward you and all those brave women like you and
keep you strong and growing in the Deen, Ameen.
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Source:
Ad-Da'wah ilAllah - A Womens' Islamic Magazine
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